“Three out of four of my single friends – myself being one of them – broke down at their fortieth birthday because they hadn’t had kids yet. Biologically speaking, we had passed the time that a woman can have children without concern for undue complications.
But once you get pass all that you become really confident, as you realise that you just don’t care what people think anymore. Twenty-something’s look up to you. You’re old and wise – yeah! (Zee’s note: Forty is not old).
Sixteen to twenty-four was the worst time for me (Zee’s note: yuss! Only half a year to go!). The peer pressure is really high at that age – and it takes a long time to get away from that. Then, when you have kids, it starts all over again. You know: parents versus parents, and things that the children come home and ask for. I’m not susceptible to that –
I’m a wise old sage to people twenty-five years younger than me and I don’t care what anyone else thinks of me. It’s fantastic!”
I have friends that are older, younger and my own age. Each of them have things that make them special to me, and make them fantastic friends. I feel blessed every day to have each and every one of them, but there’s something in particular that I appreciate about my old(er) friends: they help me realise things that only time can otherwise teach you, things that sometimes you don’t even realise are happening to the extent of which they are, like peer pressure. All those things that other people are achieving, doing, or where they’re at in life (Facebook is terrible for this – remember we only see what people choose to display, we don’t see the cuts). What people have, who they’re hanging out with, what they’re listening to… It doesn’t really make a difference to your life, unless you let it, and that’s at the heart of self-confidence and self-worth.
Also, life is not a race to get married and have kids, nor is it a race to the top of the career ladder. Do what makes you happy, what makes your loved ones happy, and try to make the world a better place by making you a better person.
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